Here are some tips for becoming more accepting. Jan. 29, 2017. Accept that you cannot fix your partner. When you start to get frustrated with your spouse check in with your thoughts. For instance, if you've learned throughout the years that your partner has a habit of being late, accept it. The glue to any successful marriage would be to accept your husband or wife as he/she is. Accept that just because they don't behave like you, it doesn't make them wrong. I had to love him flaws and all, the same way he loved me. The only alternative to the typically fruitless hope of getting one’s partner to change, is to simply accept that they’re never going to. Accept that your partner is not perfect. Or if your spouse stays at home do you feel you accept the fact your spouse might not like or be the best house keeper or cook? Well, no. Essentially, accepting your partner for who and what they are is a choice that frees you both to enjoy each other fully and feel good about yourselves. By Sandra Rose. Acceptance is another facet of serving love. In a relationship, it means accepting your partner for who they are. Do not choose only one part, take me as I am, whole and such as I am, so you don’t make any mistakes. You Have To Accept Your Partner's Flaws In A Relationship. Reevaluate the seriousness of your partner's flaws. Accept love as they are able to give it to you. You serve your spouse by how you accept your spouse at every … 1. Here are seven steps to acceptance: 1. Accepting others for who they are, and not for who you would like them to be, is an important step in forging healthy relationships full of mutual respect and realistic expectations. Let me add a disclaimer: Throughout the remainder of this article, I am not talking about accepting abusive, dangerous behavior. Síguenos / Follow us! You are the very last person who is going to change your husband or wife. Watch your expectations. They may also be able to help you to learn to manage the feelings you may have about your partner’s behaviors. What you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less. And it can help you accept yourself for who you are at the same time. And so, the #1 thing spouses can do to build healthy, lasting marriage, is to love and accept your spouse the way they are. Wanting your spouse to change is like asking a cat to bark. A professional may be able to help you learn how to accept a situation. If you are having difficulty accepting your partner for who they, consider consulting with a therapist. Accept your partner for who they are. I am what I am. Accept that you love them. Where you once expected agreement and compliance from your partner, you’ll do better and feel better to practice love and acceptance. Accept their flaws. Indeed, research shows that nearly 70% of marital conflicts are perpetual and unresolvable — they last a couple’s whole life through. 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